We really do have a science of love. It's in its infancy, but it's a strong, bawling little infant. It's not a fragile child.
When I think about it, in the last 15 years our understanding of our most important adult relationships has absolutely gone crazy. It is a revolution.And it's so important. I was just looking in my local newspaper today, TheGlobe and Mailin Toronto, talking about how the Canadian government is struggling with the fact that there are rising levels of anxiety and depression and we can't deal with it in our healthcare system. Well, I know what John Bowlby would say. John Bowlby would say, "Absolutely, because we're facing less and less social connection, less and less community connection, and 50 percent of us divorce. We haven't learned how to create these safe, loving bonds. We need to belong." And the way to deal with that sort of thing, from my point of view, is not for the pharmaceutical companies to get better pills. It's for us to really understand our need for human connection, and start educating people for that and understanding how crucial that is in terms of basic mental health problems like anxiety and depression.VY:Can you give a little sneak preview of your book? One or two morsels?SJ:I'm going to talk about oxytocin, the cuddle hormone. I'm going to talk about how sex is an attachment behavior. I'm going to talk about how we're basically monogamous and that those people who say that we're not suited for monogamy are out of their minds. I'm going to talk about all the science behind what happens when you have one of those little arguments with your partner in the morning that ends up wrecking your whole day, so that when five o' clock comes along you're not even sure why you married this person. That's what I'm going to try to talk about.VY:We'll look forward to that coming out. Thanks for taking the time to talk today.SJ:You're welcome.
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Dr. Sue Johnsonis one of the originators and the main proponent of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), now one of the best validated couples interventions in North America. She is Director of the Ottawa (Canada) Couple and Family Institute and the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy as well as Professor of Clinical Psychology at the University of Ottawa and Research Professor at Alliant University in San Diego, California.
She has received numerous honors for her work, including the Outstanding Contribution to the Field of Couple and Family Therapy Award from the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy and the Research in Family Therapy Award from the American Family Therapy Academy. She is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association.
She received her doctorate in Counseling Psychology from the University of British Columbia in 1984. She is a registered psychologist in the province of Ontario, Canada, and a member of the editorial board of the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy and the Journal of Family Psychology. She is a Research Professor in the Marital & Family Therapy Program at Alliant University in San Diego.
Her 2004 book (2nd Ed),The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Creating Connection(Brunner Rouledge) is a foundational text on EFT for couples. She is the senior editor of the 2003 book,Attachment Processes in Couples Therapy(Guilford Press), and the 1994 book,The Heart of the Matter(Guilford Press). She has also written a book on trauma and couples,Focused Couple Therapy with Trauma Survivors(2002).
ShetrainscounselorsinEFTworldwideandconsultstoVeteransAffairs,theU.S.andCanadianmilitaryandNewYorkCityFireDepartment.SueisanApprovedSupervisorfortheAmericanAssociationofMarr
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