A female infant was born after a fairly smooth labor. They named her Amy.Martha weathered the delivery fairly well and was ready to go home when herdoctor discharged her. The infant care over the next few months was physicallyexhausting for Martha, but she was not heavily burdened by anxieties about thebaby or about her adequacy as a mother. She continued to talk to Michael abouther thoughts and feelings and still did not feel he was supposed to do somethingto make her feel better. Although Michael had increasing work pressures heremained emotionally available to her, even if only by phone at times. Heworried about work issues, but did not ruminate about them to Martha. When sheasked how it was going, he responded fairly factually and appreciated herinterest. He occasionally wished Martha would not get anxious about things, butrealized she could manage. He was not compelled to "fix" things for her.
[Analysis: Sure of herself as a person,Martha is able to relate to Amy without feeling overwhelmed by responsibilitiesand demands and without unfounded fears about the child's well-being. Sure ofhimself, Michael can meet the reality demands of his job without feeling guiltythat he is neglecting Martha. Each spouse recognizes the pressure the other isunder and neither makes a "federal case" about being neglected. Each issufficiently confident in the other's loyalty and commitment that neither needsmuch reassurance about it. By the parents relating comfortably to each other,Amy is not triangled into marital tensions. She does not have a void to fill inher mother's life related to distance between her parents.]
After a few months, Michael and Martha were able to find time to do somethings by themselves. Martha found that her anxieties about being a mother toneddown and she did not worry much about Amy. As Amy grew, Martha did not perceiveher as an insecure child that needed special attention. She was positive aboutAmy, but not constantly praising her in the name of reinforcing Amy'sself-image. Michael and Martha discussed their thoughts and feelings about Amy,but they were not preoccupied with her. They were pleased to have her and tookpleasure in watching her develop. Amy grew to be a responsible young child. Shesensed the limits of what was realistic for her parents to do for her andrespected those limits. There were few demands and no tantrums. Michael did notfeel critical of Amy very often and Martha did not defend Amy to him when he wascritical. Martha figured Michael and Amy could manage their relationship. Amyseemed equally comfortable with both of her parents and relished exploring herenvironment.
[Analysis: Michael and Martha can see Amyas a separate and distinct person. The beginning differentiation between Amy andher parents is evident when Amy is a young child. They have adapted quitesuccessfully to the anxieties they each experienced associated with the additionof a child and the increased demands in Michael's work life. Their high levelsof differentiation allow the three of them to be in close contact with littletriangling.]
Nuclear Family Emotional System核心家庭情绪系统
The concept of the nuclear family emotional system describes four basicrelationship patterns that govern where problems develop in a family. People'sattitudes and beliefs about relationships play a role in the patterns, but theforces primarily driving them are part of the emotional system. The patternsoperate in intact, single-parent, step-parent, and other nuclear familyconfigurations.
Clinicalproblemsorsymptomsusuallydevelopduringperiodsofheightenedandprolongedfamilytension.Theleveloftensiondependsonthestressafamilyencounters,howafamilyadaptstothestress,andonafamily'sconnectionwithextendedfamilyandsocialnetworks.Tensionincreasestheactivityofoneormoreofthefourrelationshippatterns.Wheresymptomsdev
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